Haha, sorry I had to laugh at my own title. Being a parent is stressful from the moment you see those two little pink lines on that stick. You hit the ground running with worry, excitement, anxiety, joy and it is all very stressful. But let’s face it would you have it any other way?
I am very much into the statement, pick your battles. But I change it just a bit to pick your stresses. I have told myself if it does not harm my children in any way or others in any way then I am not going to stress about. *giggle* Okay so yes I still do stress but not quite as much. Not stressing for a hover parent is VERY hard! Even as I write this my two little gremlins are bickering back and forth and I am str- no concerned they will start fighting. So I hold my breath, count to 10 and before I know it they are back to laughing again.
Parents, guardians, caretakers of children are going to stress and worry, that just comes with it but we do not have to let it control our lives. Here is one thing that hit me hard the other day that I want to share with you. If you are stressing, you can bet your butt your child is stressing too.
I’ll tell you how this finally clicked in my head. I was stressing majorly over my kid’s curriculum, and if they were learning everything they need to know. You see I forgot why I was homeschooling and was trying to keep up with the joneses. During this time of stress overload, my kid’s behavior was down right awful! My oldest was freaking out over his school work and HATED doing it. The youngest was just being a brat! My lovely world was falling apart, I had no clue why or what to do. Then I saw on my fb page an article similar to the one you are reading now. Explaining a similar situation between the author and her daughter. I literally smacked myself in the face. Because I finally understood the saying, if Mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy.
So what did I do you ask? Well, I will tell you what I did.
I put the teachers manual back on the shelf, and we went outside to play. Then we sat down and watched a documentary on sea turtles with my kids. I reminded myself, my son is already ahead and my daughter will catch up. I also reminded myself of how old they really are. Next, I put my phone down and told society to shut the hell up. Finally, I learned to enjoy my children as they are, not how society and others say they should be. Your children are people too, not mindless robots.
So I employ you to take a deep breath, it will be okay. Things always have a way of working themselves out. Here are some tips on resetting a stressful life and enjoying what little time you have together.